Celebrating Forever Families

As most of you know Adoption is very close to our hearts. Tessa has been the greatest blessing to Chris and I. I get so many questions from people about the adoption I just thought I would share our thoughts with you...

1. Do you talk to Tessa about it?
Defiantly YES. We have purchased several children's books that we read quite often. I understand some of the folks out there that think it should be a private thing, but I don't want to hit that point in Tessa's life where she starts asking me questions about her grandparents and why she doesn't look like us(I know she looks identical to me now, but that could change;)). I don't want her history to be a lie. Chris and I were really concerned about this at one point but after talking to our social worker he said it is best for everyone to not keep it as a secret. She is only 3.5 but she understands that she didn't grow in my belly.

2. Will you allow her to see her biological mother and father?
ABSOLUTELY. She is more than welcome to visit with them. They are apart of her life, after all they are the ones who gave us the greatest gift anyone could ever give. We thank them everyday.

3. Do you feel like she is your child since you were not the one who gave birth?
Yes, I actually get this question... 150% feel like she is our child. Only a adopted mother or father can understand. From the time we saw Tessa in the birthing room we have bonded the same way a bio mother/father and child does. It's a awesome feeling knowing you were able to give this child a home, love, and support.

Those are the main questions Chris and I get anytime someone finds out that we have an adopted child. I was browsing the books store and I of course always look at the parenting books. Not that any parenting book can tell me how to raise my child, or tell me what to do when she is throwing a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store because I won't buy her that sugar filled cereal! I found the new book "Chicken Soup for the Adopted Soul." I read a few stories standing there and had to stop if I actually can get thru this book without crying it will be a miracle. It's a very cute book and I'm looking forward to reading it! It's filled with inspirational stories about all aspects of adoption. Includes stories from birth parents, adopted people, and adoptive parents. You should pick it up!!


I also just finished another book that may peek your intrest...
"Another Place at the Table" by Kathy Harrison. GREAT BOOK if you have ever thought about doing foster care, this book will make you want to start tomorrow. It's about a family who has almost a hundred children thru her home.